Jon Wood's Bad Wasabi: Art-o-stration

When did you first realize women saw you as a potential mate?

oratorasaurus:

A selection of quotes from men on the topic above

Not yet, but there’s hope. I was catcalled by a woman the other day, she told me that my ass looked good in those jeans. That was both the most flattering and the most overt compliment I’ve ever received - hands down. The punchline is that I’m 37.

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Only a few years ago, actually, when I realized I was a tall, broad-shouldered black man with a deep voice who is intelligent and fairly witty. I’m also currently a Bahamian living in the UK, giving me an exotic, not-quite American accent.

I realized about a year back that women had been hitting on me several times throughout my life and I hadn’t noticed. Up to the extent of “my friend likes you” while the friend was standing next to her and grinning, in the Bahamian equivalent of Middle School. (I assumed they were teasing) Oh, and the occasional sexual assault.

I wish I was joking.

Actually, the first time was in 2006, according to my old blog, when a girl looked me up and down, said I was cute, then rubbed herself over me trying to get me to buy her a $200 cell phone. After I wrote an “angsty” blog post - I didn’t realize I was reacting to a sexual assault for a while - I slowly cottoned on to the fact that I wasn’t as homely as I thought.

Still haven’t kissed a girl. :(

I’m a Christian waiting for marriage to have sex, so that simplifies matters somewhat. Of course, that leaves the possibility of some girl finding out I’m not going to sleep with her without a ring on it and promptly breaking up with me.

Or worse, finding out about my dandruff.

I’m still trying to learn to stop questioning the fact that women may actually like me, and just accept it. Of course, that may only be the start of troubles.

And as for all the guys who said “never”;

Ouch.

Previously on Bad Wasabi: Lots and lots of people missing the point.

http://www.brobible.com/life/article/person-on-reddit-sexually-oblivious-man

http://badwasabi.tumblr.com/post/46890576301/a-girl-once-asked-me-to-keep-my-dorm-door-unlocked#

The fact that Dean is straight ain’t no nevermind.

There’s a tumblr post where someone is crying about how Castiel and Dean will never get together on Supernatural because They (I’m not sure who) think it’ll be just about sex.

I was like

It’s not exactly like you lot are demonstrating otherwise.

Seriously, does anyone else hate it when fans accuse showrunners of being homophobes because they won’t make a certain slash ship canon? If I ran a show, I’d have two ostensibly-straight male characters spend most of a season exchanging longing glances and ambiguous touches, and in the first season finale, they’d hook up.

With other men entirely.

“I’m a Black person and I don’t think this is raci-“

thedarkchocolatedandy:

thedarkchocolatedandy:

badwasabi:

allofthephobesandistsandisms:

thechocolatedandymassacre:

Finally. A post that, quite literally, proves they will not listen to anyone that disagrees with them. How sad. 

Incidentally, the person who made the initial post defended themselves by saying they’re a black gay male. The hypocrisy of trying to lend his opinion more weight by using the very behavior he decries seems to have completely escaped him.

No, wait, that would require self awareness.

Also escaping him is that he’s dismissing someone’s opinion solely on the basis of whether he disagrees with it or not. Curiously, he only responded to the criticism about five people down the reblog chain. And he doesn’t actually address what was actually said, instead preferring to attack what he thinks of the person instead of discussing their point.

Gosh, that seems familiar.

OK, so what would you like me to address?

Fuck it, I’m going to take this opportunity to explain why people who use the phrase, “I’m Black and I don’t find this racist”.

First and foremost, more often than not, they’re lying. It’s not impossible for a Black person to see something non-problematic where others do, but more often than not, it’s a non-Black person trying to cover their tracks before spewing out some racist crap. 

Secondly, people who use this line, and I’m talking exclusively about this line “I’m a Black person and I don’t think this is racist.” is because racists will latch onto this opinion as proof that they’re actions aren’t racist. They will use this one person’s sole affirming response and use it to silence and erase the voices of dissent. For example, remember when Shirley Q. Liquor was doing that racist-ass Blackface drag? (x) (head’s up, that link is to a racist-ass song called Church Slave, watch at your own risk and don’t bother with the comments). Well guess what? RuPaul supported her! Yeah RuPaul stood by this bullshit, and guess who’s opinion on the matter was constantly trotted out when Liquor was criticized? Yeah, RuPaul’s.

Third, most of the time when the phrase “I’m Black, etc….” is trotted out, it’s by a person who’s been immersed in whiteness for a good chunk of their lives and hasn’t yet come to an understanding of the racist undercurrents of society. That and they’re willing to sell out their fellow Black people if it means being accepted by White Society.

All that information was wrapped up in the initial post, and if you can’t understand that, that’s not my issue. I suggest you take yourself to your nearest library and get to reading. 

And the reason why I explain my sexuality atop of my race was because another commentar thought it apropos to use their’s as justification for usage of the word f*ggot. 

The reasoning for using such language is none of my business, as a gay person, it’s their slur to reclaim. I will not however try and erase the homophobia that comes with that word. 

The reason why I don’t take people seriously; who try and use their race/sexuality as a means to silence or counteract their peers, is because their opinions will be taken as gospel and used to further oppress and harm disenfranchised minorities even further. 

They pick and choose which responses they’ll absorb and more often than not, they’ll pick the one that allows them to remain complicit in their problematic behavior. 

Understand sweet pea? 

Reblogging in long format so he can’t delete this like he did with the original post. Already responded to this nonsense.